In Anguttara Nikaya, the b...ook of the three, verse 172, the Buddha said that one should give in such a way that the donee does feel humiliated, belittled or hurt. One should give with due consideration and respect, and make the donee feel warmly welcomed and glad to return.
Personal involvement in the act of giving - such as giving with our own bare hands and promoting the rapport through our caring, willingness and concerned attitude towards the donee - will most definitely enhance the quality our aphaya-dana. This will be even more so if we give things that are good, choice, useful and appropriate, and not things which are only fit to be thrown away. [By Mahindarama Suday Pali School]